Many believe that If a Christian should marry someone else by accident or by desire, then he or she will not be in God’s will. This means that getting married is beneficial and a blessing for humans.
They can still be happy, but will not have God’s best. They are not true and the Bible nowhere teaches these views. However, it is not just marrying any woman or man, but the right kind of woman or man.
However, those who marry the wrong person also risk the possibility of divorce. Prov. says, "A prudent wife is from the Lord." That is, if you want a wife that is from the Lord (i.e.
Christians often feel that couples get divorced because they have married the wrong person. the Lord’s will), find a prudent one (one with discernment and self-control). This is just one attribute of a wife or husband that will be a blessing from the Lord.
What will that unbeliever think about Christ and Christians after his painful experience with you?
You say, “but there are no Christians around who want to date me.” That may be the case, but that does not change what is God your Father’s plan for you.
As a Christian husband or wife, your life is centered in Christ; an unbeliever’s is not.
Your beliefs and values are established upon the Word of God, an unbeliever’s is not. If you are going to be wise in following this, you also need to realize that it is emotionally dangerous to even date an unbeliever.
Although Abraham and Isaac sought wives for their sons as the Lord had directed them, their experiences are not the norm.
This is a boundary that you must draw when it comes to whom you allow yourself to “fall for” or even date. What happens if you date an unbeliever and develop the desire and romantic passion to marry him or her, now what are you going to do?
Is it possible to have romantic feelings for someone who is not a Christian? Your feelings are powerful and you are going to hurt yourself far worse than if you had never gotten involved.
What happens if the unbeliever develops a desire to marry you? You say you care about that unbeliever, but do you?
You have defrauded that unbeliever by allowing him or her to develop a desire to marry you when you know you can’t marry him or her.